Yesterday I read a blog post titled Live and Learn by Jaycie Cheatham. I was intrigued by her blog, as I found we had some similarities, and I decided to read this post.
I found myself taken by her words, as lately, I too have been looking back on what moments have shaped my life to be as I live it today. Life lessons learned, and situations I have overcome, or failed, seem to be what I reflect on the most. It seems they are always the harsh or negative ones that seem to have impacted my life course. I wonder why that is?
I am reminded of a country song by Brad Paisley, “If I Could Write A Letter To Me.” If only we could send our seventeen year old selves a letter from where we are now, a heads up or a warning, saying “don’t go to that party,” or “you have to go to college after high school.” Although I do believe that lessons like don’t talk too much, or don’t be so shy are important, the harsh life lessons that we survive, are the ones I believe truly build our character.
The biggest moment that I have learned from in my 35 years on this planet is this: Never make other people’s priorities more important than your own. That’s what I did at the age of 19, and I believe it truly changed the course of my life. For the better, or the worst, I don’t know. I just know it did. I gave up on me, to put all of my energy into another human being. That was so dumb!
I let all of my goals and priorities crumble away, and by the time I opened my eyes to what I was doing (four years later), I was too far gone. I tried so hard to reconnect with my old goals, but by this time they would be harder to obtain. Everything turned into a constant struggle. Now, I look at all of the events of my past with wiser eyes, and I am moving forward with my goals of 10+ years ago. I just have to go about them a different way.
I applaud the ones who can see with this insight at an earlier age than I did. Always be your own number 1, and your hardest critic. We only have one life, so we better make it a happy one.
Asewalson:
I enjoyed reading this post. It was the first post of yours I have read. I really am looking forward to realing more. I am going to subscribe to your page by email. I think we have a lot in common given this post and I cant wait to connect more with you.
Wishing you all the best!
Your Blogging 101 classmate,
Kalyssa
http://www.thesimplysassylife.com
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Wow! Thank you so much! I’m heading over to your page 🙂
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And now I have subscribed to you as well 🙂
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thank you so much! You did not have to do that! I hope you like what you see:)
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I did it because I liked the first post I read on your blog 🙂 Love your writing!
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Oh thank you so much! That is very exciting and nice to hear!
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I enjoy you post!! I nominated you for the versatile blogger award 🙂
https://virtuefree.wordpress.com/2015/01/15/versatile-blogger-award/
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Hi Shakira! I really appreciate that. I am new to blogging so I am not so sure what it is or how to find the nomination. Do you mind assisting me? Again, thank you so much!
Hugs,
Kalyssa
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If you go to my page (virtuefree.wordpress.com) you’ll see my post about the versatile blogging award- follow those instructions and you should be good 🙂
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Wait, so the rules you wrote I need to write a blog post following those rules or are there other instructions? I also do not see my name on your post, perhaps I made a mistake?
Thanks,
Kalyssa
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Mainly all you would need to do is repost the actual reward, in your new post, add 7 facts about you and thank the person whi nominated you. And also tag 15 people. This really is more for fun more than anything. 😀
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When we realize it, it seems we’re always grasping to regain control.
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That is such a draining feeling, too 😦
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See it pays to listen to those lyrics.😉 It can give us insight! I truly believe if you can’t make yourself # 1 no one else is gonna. Nice post!
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Thank you 🙂
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Great post, I too struggle with putting my priorities first. My biggest problem is volunteering to help people, picking up the extra shift at work because “nobody else can do it.” and sacrificing family time.
You’re right about the difficult times being the most formative, when I think back to the difficult times I have had I always came out the other side stronger and better equipped to cope with what the world sent my way.
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Thank you so much for the mention! I am glad that my post made a connection with someone! Sometimes I feel like I just send these things out there and they have no where to land! This really made my day!
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I feel that way, too about my blog 🙂 Hope you had a great day!
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